Why I Prefer Married Men

I had a dreadful appointment today. It started off earlier today with a phone call and he sounded lovely, he was well spoken, courteous and sounded rather sexy.  He confirmed at the time he said he would and everything looked rosy in the garden.

He arrived more or less on time, came in and made an excuse that he couldn't get as much out of the cash machine as he hoped, so cut the appointment time.  This does happen from time to time and there's very little I can do about it, especially when they're here. It doesn't start the appointment off on a good footing.

It transpired he was a gay man and he did the typical gay man appointment which is completely different to a married/openminded man appointment. He was demanding, rude, obnoxious and expected me to be rock hard throughout. Why do gay men, when paying for an escort service think they have the right to be down right rude and horrible to the person they're expecting to provide them with a sexual service.  I never have problems getting erections but I just couldn't do it. He was very good looking and physically turned me on but his attitude certainly didn't.

Not all gay men are like this but this one was more of the norm than the exception yet their heterosexual counterparts are the complete opposite. I am person providing a service, not a machine and don't care to be treated in such a way.

Ninety five out of one hundred guys I see are in the heterosexual/married man camp and they're the men I prefer to see.  I am proud to be gay but I really don't like to have sex with a certain type of gay man that this work sometimes attracts..

Not Being Political

I have been pulled a few times for not being sympathetic to the political concerns, struggles and day to day worries of other escorts on social media such as Twitter and my own blog.  To be honest I don't really care if your a swerf or a terf or a sis or a cis or a man or a woman, a trans or anything.  It really doesn't interest me.  I actually like people for who they are and if they're not bothering me then I won't bother them.

I am not a great fan of career-carers like Julie Bindel etc, they really couldn't give a flying fuck about sexworker rights, it's just to get their name in the paper and carve a career for themselves being shouty about something others won't touch.  Rhoda Grant is the same, a countryfile MSP who is concerning herself with city nonsense that she knows nothing about.  It's not about protecting sexworkers it's about making a name for herself at Holyrood.

A couple of Twitter friends have pulled me for the use of the words, loony, bonkers etc, yes I think some of the tweets and blog posts are bonkers, full of words even university educated people like me struggle to understand and by the 4th sentence I lose interest.  I came into escorting as a way to fund my lifestyle, I fancied being more part time with my job and this was the perfect solution and I am quite happy to stand up and be counted but I am not interested in who is a swerf and who is a terf.  I don't even know what they mean and when I mentioned them to my friend Michelle she thought it was something to do with a burger and prawn ring Wetherspoons meal.

I am interested in the struggles sexworkers have on a daily basis but I not interested in reading daily essays about how women have such a struggle and men have privilege.  As I discussed with my friend yesterday, the last time I heard the word Privilege being banded about it was when Joanna Lumley was selling car insurance.  All these terms are baffling to me and that's not what I use Twitter for, I use it as a marketing tool and to meet unusual and friendly people I probably would never know otherwise.  Please don't chastise me for my lack of interest.  I am here to escort and be political at times I see fit.  I don't need to disect it for a thesis.

Fun Monday

I did have a very good Monday, just two appointments but fun filled ones. I started the day off with a very early appointment. Yes I was entertaining a young guy at approximately 8.40am. An early start by escorting standards. You tend to be busier around lunch time and afternoons in this work. I don't mind the early appointments because anyone who follows me on Twitter will already know I am up and about at around 7am every morning.

My 8.40am client sounded about 40 on the phone, when he turned up he was little over 23. Truth that you never can tell what someone sounds like on the phone. He was quite nervous, to begin with, but it wasn't long before his union jack boxer shorts were off and he was into the moment. He wasn't that demanding either, just nice and easy going until he really got into it and then it was bedroom olympics time. A thoroughly good start to the day.

I took another advanced appointment for my Carlisle trip then popped into Gosforth for a pub lunch and a little bit of shopping. I met up with a friend and she was asking if I was bust as usual. Yes.... but I was missing a certain client who I hadn't seen in over a month. Normally I will see him every 10 days and he did email me a few weeks back but I had an appointment booked in at home at the same time he wanted. I thought he would book the following day but he didn't.. then bingo, he text me just after I finished lunch and invited me along to his home in Corbridge for another sleazy session.

He's very full on and knows what he wants and what he wants is my ass. I had a slow drive home, pumped full of air from my lovely Northumberland guy. It was 4pm when I arrived home and the sun was shining brighly in my little garden and so I decided it was officially wineoclock.

Nothing came in yesterday evening and so it was an early night. I was asleep a little after 10pm, wondering what Tuesday would bring.

Ramblings At 3am

Its quite a lonely job being an escort. Most people you know don't know what you do. They stop inviting you to places because you've let them down in the past because you couldn't afford to turn down the two hour incall you so desperately needed the money from. They don't understand that having a day off work costs you money because your day isn't a 9 to 5 job, its a day that has quite antisocial hours.

I try not to socialise with other escorts. I am only really friendly with one escort and she's a female escort, we do chat every day on the phone about various trivial nonsense and comment on rubbish we see on Facebook and Twitter. Apart from that I don't really know any other escorts.  Its not something that particularly bothers me. I managed to spend nearly 14 years in the sex industry without bothering with anyone else until recently when I've been using Twitter as an online marketing tool.

I hated Twitter to begin with. Until you get about 100 followers you're just tweeting to yourself. When you get followed by genuine people as opposed to company accounts, Twitter then becomes a whole lot more interesting. I've had my fingers burned on there too and learned what to think privately and say publically. When I was publically humiliated on Twitter I received a lot of messages and emails of support from people who didn't even follow me. They were from people appalled at the bullying used on Twitter for political and personal gain. They urged me not to lock down or close my account but to move on and learn from it.

I noted with keen interest in the last few weeks that some people don't like my blog. Some prefer just sexual content,  others prefer more serious topics. I try to strike a balance between both. The blog is here as a marketing tool for me but also to talk about things that a gay male sex worker may observe from time to time.  I'm not one of these self proclaimed activists I see every day on Twitter who are anything but activists. They've just got shouty angry tweets to post and don't go as far as their living room.  Activists are people who actually get out there using their real name putting their own head over the parapet,  not shouty twitter uses who think they're campaigners. You're not an activist unless you personally act as opposed to sitting at home telling everyone else what is wrong with the sex industry. Sex worker activism isn't about a womans struggle with the law and oppression, it's about sex worker struggles with the law and oppression.   Female sex workers forget that's its not an inclusive little female only club. The outpouring of disgust that some female sex workers have made over the recent RadFem conference this weekend just shows how out of touch they are in their own community. They feel alienated by their own gender yet quite happily alienate their own co-workers because they happen to be male sex workers.

I read an argument online last week why female sex workers are so much more important. It's because they can charge more.   Hmm that's quite interesting.   Yes I charge less than many of my female counterparts but a quick scour of Adultwork using a 10 mile radius of my postcode will reveal possibly a dozen or so female sex workers offering their service at the same, similar and often less than my published rates. This argument suddenly falls apart. Are these women, advertising lower rates,  somehow less worthy than me because I charge more than them, the answer is no and it's something I've never even thought about until I read it on Twitter and discovered the sheer arrogance of some people both male and female.

Anyway on that note I will go back to sleep. My cat is wanting attention and I apologise for any typos. A phone is not the best tool for making a 3am blog post.

Appalling Edinburgh

It's was possibly with the upmost dismay that I discovered that Police Scotland in their divine wisdom had decided to simultaneously raid the various sauna premises in Edinburgh.

Edinburgh was a conservative yet safe, tolerant and openminded place to work. Not anymore !! Clients will be frightened to visit saunas and escorts for fear of being watched, arrested and victimised. It's no lie that 95% of clients are married or in a heterosexual relationship. Almost all of my clients on the gay side are men in seemingly heterosexual relationships.

It's a step backwards when progressive countries are legalising prostitution. We're on the cusp of legalising gay marriage and yet denying sex workers, male or female, the chance to earn a decent living in a safe environment. Rhoda Grant must have been laughing into her cocoa that night and sat down to a celebratory black pudding breakfast, the next morning, after the news. This does nothing for the human rights of sex workers who actually want to provide this service. I love being an escort and I am sure the sauna workers loved their work too.

A co-sexworker and allie Laura Lee did a press interview yesterday telling the world how she got into the work. She started in a massage parlour and it's done her no harm. She's a sorted, well heeled, confident woman with a fantastic career and income that city types would be envious of. Just because we have sexual and intimate relations with men we're persecuted by those that should know better. What are they gaining by raiding parlours and criminalising clients. Maybe if Rhoda Grant concentrated on rural affairs where her constituents live than meddling in city affairs, she's no experience of, then this might not have even happened. I am sure her own constituents, she represents are more concerned about local issues about farming and local services than prostitutes outside the Co-Op in Stornoway.

What does Poice Scotland gain from this except to add funds to their coffers under "Proceeds of Crime" where they receive an income boost from the seizure of assets, something sited quite clearly in yesterdays exposé. Lets face it, no one visits an Edinburgh Sauna to sit there in a towel and clear their pores. Its's been the only real legalised brothel system in the UK.

I've discovered that girls were interviewed in the street. Where is their RIGHT to privacy ????? Were the clients led out and condoms seized for DNA evidence, who knows ! Why was monies held by the girls seized ? As sex workers they're not actually committing a crime. Why seize their assets even if it was just assets for one days work.

It's a sad day for Edinburgh. Really sad day. Anyone would think wore Rhoda has a cousin in the police to help progress her career. Huge co-incidence it's in the same week as the Prostitution Debate by Richard Lucas, Rhoda Grant, Douglas Fox and Laura Lee and so close to the Rhoda Grant proposed bill in the Scottish Parliament which is the next assault and expected quite soon.

Carlisle Tour 18/19/20 June 2013 - Incalls

Yes, I am hitting the road again for a little tour.

I have a very good client in the North West who wants to see me and so I thought I would make a mini tour of it.

I will be available on 18th/19th and some of the 20th of June.

18th - 2pm-11pm
19th - 7am-11pm
20th - 7am-12 Noon

 Prices
£40 - Half Hour
£70 - One Hour
£100 - 90 minutes
£130 - 2 Hours
Longer available on request and if you just fancy a quickie, give me a ring to discuss that price and what services you want for the quickie in and out session.

Give me a call to book. Regular prices and all normal services as usual. If there's something a bit more kinky you have in mind I am always ready to listen and rarely say no.

 My number as always 07854 146783

Who Are These Regular Clients ?

I get a number of phone calls a day, many many texts (oh do they like to text) and often they'll say, I've been to see you before.

I like seeing regular clients and I am lucky that nearly 75% of my work is with guys I have seen time and time again, I tend to know what they like in advance and can plan the appointment to their taste.  Some, like a gentleman who booked last week, may see me for the first time and then follow it up with an email, often planning their next illicit liaison with me and discussing how adventurous they will be on our next meet.

Some guys think they're a regular client on their second appointment.  If that second appointment is within a month of the first then they're on their way to becoming a regular client but I tend to class regular clients as guys who see me as opposed to other gay escorts and who want to explore their sexuality with me.  They may visit me once a fortnight, like one or two of the guys I see, or they might come and visit me twice a year.  I has a visit from one lovely client last week on the evening of the 28th May but didn't realise I had seen him 2 years prior to this visit on the 28th May 2011 and after the appointment he said he will endevour to book me again for 28th May next year because he comes back to Newcastle once a year for a family engagement.  Now he's just once a year (or two years in this case) but if he books again he'll be a sort of regular client.

One of my very very regular clients just dropped off the face of the earth last winter.  I used to see him every week to ten days for about 2 years.  He was always in a mad rush and always full on, onto business, shower, dressed and away.  I wondered if he was ok, had an accident or moved away, but it seems he's still around and must have another gay escort on the go.  I know he's around and in good health because he's a prominent local businessman.  Hopefully he will come back at some stage and resume bedroom activities with me again.

One of my favourite regular clients, books an appointment every 2-3 weeks.  I never go more than 2-3 weeks without an appointment from him and if he clashes with a booking I already have, he will always book the following day or the day after, I sort of know when he's on my radar and have a fair idea when I am going need to travel out to Corbridge to see him.  What I don't understand is why some clients say they're going to become regular and then don't.  Last summer I seen a fantastic guy in the West End of Newcastle.  My type of bloke, bald, rugged, tats, big cock, shaven in the right areas and very active in the bedroom.  He booked me at 1pm to visit him at his home.  I went to visit him, had a fab time, drove home then got a text asking me to come back.  Went back, had a very hard shag with his massive cock which went on forever because he'd already cum once and at the end of it he said, "We'll make this a regular thing, I love your arse, come back next week, I'll text you".  I've never heard from him again.  He seen me twice in one day and never contacted me again.  I didn't understand why he would want to mention the possibility of regular appointment, to then never book again.  Odd

Regular clients, to me, are guys I have probably seen 3-4 times and who have a cycle, be it once a week, once a month or once a year.  You tend to know when they're coming back to see you.  Regulars arn't guys you see once in a blue moon even though they probably think they're regular, when in reality they're nothing of the sort.

I like my regulars, they're the guys who keep the roof over my head and I try to make the sex spontaneous, adventurous and different for them each time whereas at the same time keeping it within their limits and boundaries.