Wednesday 18 December 2013

A Look At 2013

What did 2013 bring my way, what were the highlights from the blog and what happened that annoyed me.

I started the year off by talking about "A Working Week" which was a general post about my silver daddy type guy, Mr Farting Fetish's return and a week laden with timewasters.

In February I touched on my Sunday morning footballer in "Horny, Married and a Good Fuck".  He never returned again, which was quite sad because he was absolutely fantastic and had told me he would come back and see me.  Never mind.

In March I touched on my straight guys who think having sex with other men makes them dirty bastards and seemed genuinely surprised that almost everyone I have sex with is married.

April started with a filthy post about my Newcastle United football supporter guy and a serious, biographical post about the changing face of escorting, detailing how I got into the work and where I intended to go from here.   I then had a break from writing the blog.  It was a very busy time for me and to be perfectly honest I had a bit of writers block going on. 

I ended May with a couple of quite political posts about the overuse of mysogynistic, which went down like a lead balloon but I opened June discussing my client from Spain who books me on the same day every year and mused over who these regular clients really are.  I carried on placing regular blog posts on about barring an overnight client because he was a pain in the arse, to find him back at my door wanting a second chance. I've ended 2013 with him being barred once more.   June carried on with political posts about Police Scotland, various ramblings at 3am about the loneliness of the job at times and another blog about why I preferred married men.

July got off to a reasonable start on the blog with a post about Texters and how much I hate them,  don't get me wrong I love texts from my known clients, even just ones saying hello and asking how I am, it let's me know they're still thinking about me, I just discussed why I hated texts from random numbers.  I discussed sticky sex and publicised a review I had been given.  

August seen me take a hiatus from the blog. I go through stages when I don't know what to write, if nothing exciting has happened, then I don't really have much to say, but I did come back briefly in September with a post and another one at the beginning of November about how people come across on the phone and how different they can be in real life.

I ended November with the very popular "From Russia With Love" post about a very nice appointment with a gentleman I've continued to see.

December started with me talking about how every client is different and I gave a run down of how good appointments happen, flow and how clients and escorts can make an appointment perfect in every way, in the "Is it ?" post

December ended on a high with semi filthy and semi appreciative post about the overnight appointment I had recently in London.  It was written specifically for my client to let him know how much I appreciated his kindness and friendship and to let others see how good escort appointments can really be.   My last post in December discussed how I had decided that a client wouldn't be discussed in the blog anymore because some things really are private, this client loves my blog and is very supportive of it but I discussed how sometimes I need to keep things private for me.

I'm sort of running out of ideas now for the remainder of the month and we have the Christmas season ahead of us and so it's maybe now time to take a little break from the blog for a few weeks and concentrate on appointments and doing what I do best and that's me trying to be one of the best gay escorts in the country.   I am not saying I am the best, because I am not but I do try ever so hard and I hope the blog in 2013 has given everyone who read it (Over 3000 unique reads a month) an insight into what I do for a living and why I enjoy it so much, even when I am being picked on my some and have my time wasted by others.  I hope you all continue to support the blog and I like to think its one of the best gay sex worker blogs in the country.   I would appreciate more comments please.  It's really helps me a lot.

I may post again in December, depending on what happens, but I've a few things happening in January which should be bloggable.   Don't forget that I am always around and I will travel anywhere in the UK for longer appointments, so don't be afraid to ask. I can't guarantee anything in life but I can guarantee that an appointment with me will be perfect in everyway imaginable or as near perfect as I can manage.

Steve


Tuesday 17 December 2013

Back To Life

After the crazy weekend I had, it's back to normal today, I am not complaining because it's something to look forward to again hopefully in the near future.  I had so much sex, my legs are just starting to get back to normal today.  A consequence of getting older and performing bedroom Olympics.

I made a decision too about my weekend client and this blog, I've decided that this aspect of my life needs to be private from today and so anything that happens between me and this very special gentleman will become off limits,  I genuinely appreciate the time I spend with him and so I feel that anything we do in future isn't really suitable for the blog.  I hope this doesn't disappoint my avid readers who enjoy reading about my exploits and look forward to reading about the good appointments as much as the funny, strange and downright filthy appointments.  I just instinctively know when something has to become private and although I never reveal who I see, I never reveal specifics, I personally want my time with this man to be private to me.  I am not saying I won't touch on aspects of my time with this gentleman, if and when I see him again, but I personally don't wish to blog about it in general.  It's my own personal preference.

An escort, whether gay or straight is a companion for the time you spend with them, whether it be as a fuck buddy or a something a but more social.  I escort on every level, from the fuck buddy appointments to being wined and dined and although the latter is where I prefer to be, I also like the fun and excitement of my other appointments. It's my job at the end of the day to be perfect and I try my very best to make sure I am immaculate for every appointment, however some appointments are different to me than others and some are more special than others.  

I am very well educated and I left a very good job to move to escorting, I am reasonably well qualified and I would never go back to a 9 to 5 job, being on call as a companion or escort is where I really excel and is what I prefer to do.  I am not your typical escort type and for a lot of the gentlemen I have escorted over the years, this is the appeal I have with them.  I have always said on my website that I am the perfect companion if you're 26 or 66 who doesn't look out of place at the hotel bar. I'm just normal.  A normal person doing a job that is anything but normal.  From discussions with many clients over the years, the art of conversation is as much about an appointment as the sex is.  If you get on really well with an escort then the conversation should flow, whether you're a daytime executive or a local plumber.  I always need advice on blocked drains as much as I need advice on exchange rates and currency conversions. 

I know instinctively, as I have blogged in the past, just how good an appointment will be within the first five minutes. I have a fair idea who will return and although there are some telephone numbers I wish to avoid, because the appointment hasn't gone so well, there are many other gentlemen who I get excited about when they contact me again.  An escorts role should never ever be to contact the client and initiate conversation, it's our job to be there when they want to spend time with us.  As I discussed at the weekend, in all of the years I have met up with guys for appointments, I have never contacted a single client out of the blue after we have met. I know some guys want that sort of correspondence and I am happy to text back and forth and chit chat with guys, I know, as long as they make the initial contact.  I totally appreciate that they have a private life and that private life needs to remain private as much as our time together is kept private.

Right... time to get my website updated and see whats happening this week





Monday 16 December 2013

Overnight In London

I am on the train and heading back to Newcastle after what could only be described as a wonderful evening of fun, nice food, super company with a guy I genuinely like.

This, like many of my repeat appointments was with a gentleman who had visited Newcastle Upon Tyne on business and had booked me for a longer appointment before than the usual one hour, wham bam thank you ma'am, type of liaison and so he was back in the UK, this time in London.

I arrived at his suite at a top London hotel and he greeted me at the door and he was extremely warm, just like the last time and he looked genuinely pleased to see me. So pleased to see me, he had my pants down within 5 minutes of arriving, he was super super horny. He just couldn't keep his hands off me.  I dressed with attention paid to every detail he requested.  One thing you can depend on is that I will bring everything as requested and I won't let anyone down.

After a fondle on the sofa, we moved upstairs to the bedroom with a glass of wine, where he proceeded to fuck me super hard with the new anal bead toy I had recently purchased, exclusively for his use.  He just couldn't keep his hands off me and to be perfectly honest, I couldn't keep my hands off him. He's exactly the type of guy I go for anyway, taller than me, masculine, hairy chested, bald with the most wonderful cock which is a perfect fit.  Once again it didn't feel like an appointment, in fact meeting him doesn't feel like an appointment, it actually feels natural and feels right.  

After a bit of illicit fun for over an hour, which flew over, we got dressed and he took me to a fabulous London restaurant, one I had wished to visit for a long time and was always on my itinerary.  We dined and had the most wonderful food and wine where he paid me the most wonderful compliment that really boosted my confidence. He told me he had seen a lot of guys over the years and no one was like me.  There wasn't two Steve's in the gay escorting community and he was throughly pleased to have found me.  We finished dinner then had a slow walk around the quiet London streets and then it was time to get back to the hotel for round two and round three.  Once again he fucked me stupid within an inch of my life, super deep this time and we tried a few new things like DP (Double Pentration) with his cock and those exclusive anal beads.   Round three commenced and then it was time for sleep because we both had an early rise the next morning and of course I wanted him at least twice before I had to head back to Newcastle.  Some people think a liaison with an escort is just a "going through the motions" experience. With this guy it's the complete opposite, there is genuine passion there, something you can actually see.  He is extremely filthy but when he's with you, he pays complete attention to you and he makes sure you know just how much he adores the time you have with him.

When I got on the train at Kings Cross this morning I opened the envelope that contained my fee. Inside was a Christmas Card telling me that he was looking forward to seeing me many times in 2014, confirming what he had said yesterday evening.  I expect that my next visit will be a plane ride away for me, which is something else I don't mind doing for genuinely nice people like him.

I'm looking forward to hearing from him again soon when he has another business trip he can invite me along for. He knows for sure now that I am super discreet and that no matter where he ends up in Europe he can count on me to arrive on time, provide the filthy sex he likes so much, be scintillating conversation and always be discreet and reliable. 

I am sure to get a text off him in the next few days when he reads this, I'd just like to say to him that it's an absolute pleasure to see him and I hope he thinks the same.  



Friday 13 December 2013

Is It ?

What Makes For A Good Appointment

Client Side

... Is it when the escort comes through the door immaculately dressed to your taste, but without asking this in advance, because a top quality escort instinctively knows your taste from just a few emails or phone calls.

... Is it when the escort you book, brings the items you asked about, with the items you didn't ask about but they knew you'd just love, with the minimum of fuss.

... Is it when the escort can trust you to adhere to the appointment you've booked when they go out of their way to make sure they can be there, no matter where the appointment is.

... Is it when the escort makes sure you're completely fulfilled, gives you the appointment you expected and was genuinely pleased to be in your company and thoroughly enjoyed the sex you had.

... Is it when the whole appointment ...... flows ...... like a natural date, with no awkward silences.  the night just flies by with you both always have something to chat about because you genuinely like each other.

... Is it when you're already planning when you're going to book even before they've left, without telling them.

Escort Side

... is it when the gentleman kisses you on the cheek when you walk in the door and pours a glass of wine.

... Is it when he takes a genuine interest in what got you into the work and makes sure you feel good about the job you love doing.

... Is it when his warm hands move down your body and find those areas that really make you move.

... Is it when he's filthy, take breaks, treats you well and naturally moves onto the next course without being pushy and then goes back in full force.

... Is it when he pours another glass of wine and then drips the wine into your mouth and tells you just how fucking good the night has been so far.

... Is it when you leave, you get a kiss as you leave with a promise of another illicit liaison.  Whether it happens or not, the promise is there and it's open ended for whenever your paths should cross again in the future.






Wednesday 11 December 2013

Wednesday Ramblings

It's an odd little week this week.  Its relatively quiet as opposed to most weeks, some of which I put down to guys conserving their November pay for Christmas presents.  I've got all my Christmas shopping done apart from a few pressies for the cats.

Had a couple of nice clients in, no new clients to speak of, all regulars and I've got an overnight in London at the weekend so I can't really complain.  Lots of withheld calls this week which is quite unusual. Luckily my work phone is a Samsung Galaxy S3 and so I can block withheld calls and send them straight to voicemail.  I sometimes relent and start answering withheld calls but on the whole they're nearly all timewasters and no shows.  I respectfully ask them to call me back but most don't and if the guy is in a hotel I will always gladly call him back via the hotel switchboard if he doesn't want to use his mobile phone to call me, all they have to do is leave a message.  I say time and time again to withheld incall guys "If you can't trust me with your number, I simply can't trust you with my address" and I say to withheld outcall guys "If you're happy to furnish me with your home address, why not your mobile number".  

I am thinking of doing a tour in the new year, I have no idea where at this stage. A twitter friend chatted to me by Direct Message the other day and suggested an idea, which didn't sound too bad.  Get a client to book your hotel for you and then give him a generous few hours of your time for free, that way anything else you make whilst there is yours.  I am not sure how that could work, but it's an idea to think about. He gets an appointment for the cost of a hotel room for two nights, you get the accommodation paid and your only real outlay is your travel costs to the venue,  I suppose it's not a bad little idea and guarantees your accommodation costs are covered.   The worst thing about tours is the cancellations and the guys who book weeks in advance and suddenly have a major drama on the day.  Thing is you could have turned down that 3pm appointment time, five times over and they don't really appreciate that.

I am busy thinking about what toys and fun items to take to London with me at the weekend, I will have more room as I am going to take an overnight case with me rather than my usual outcall satchel.  It's easier to cart around London and easier for the train.  I am going to take down my nice little leather spanking whip, we could have some fun with that, its a one that doesn't hurt too much and doesn't leave marks. I've seen this guy before and I know what he likes and so I think it might go down well.  I always try and think ahead and think outside the box and if it doesn't get used there was no harm in taking it along anyway. I had better try and find out where my spare lube is for Outcalls too as I noticed yesterday that I was running low and have you tried buying KY In supermarkets. Its bloody expensive for the amount you get,  I prefer to get mine online in bulk.  Condoms are no bother because I get them for free but the lube sachets are fiddly as fook and annoying at the best of times.

I've been doing a bit of extra online marketing in the last few days, one of which was bringing this blog back up to date. I get hundreds of hits every day on the blog, so I am going to revamp some of the about me pages on it over the next few days and I have created a few new profiles on some external sites, some free trials and others were just free anyway. It's always worth giving the free trial sites a whirl because then can lead to a few appointments and once you know they work, you don't mind paying out the tenner a month for them if it brings in more work and a few new clients, who could end up becoming regulars.  I object to paying out for advertising in the first month, especially sites that badger you on twitter to join, who then have a hidden registration fee or charge to display your phone number.  I know adultwork charge to display your phone number but a few sex chat calls a week more than covers your display charges. I usually keep my sex chat active on adultwork all day because you never know who is going to be horny and when they need that release.  There isn't that option on other sites and so if you're going to market yourself as a listing site for escorts, at least give the escorts a suck it and see trial so they can make their own mind up what works.

Enough ramblings for now.  I need to get a shower and have some lunch, see what comes my way today and maybe play around with my blog pages a little and use this excellent marketing tool to it's best advantage.







Tuesday 10 December 2013

Every Client Is Different

Every client is different, some are easy going, some are damn hard work, some smell great as they walk through the door, some arn't so fresh but that's not really what I want to touch on today.  Every client is different and the role you play as an escort is different.

A lot of escorts have a attitude when it comes to what they will do and what they won't do with clients and I agree that each and every escort needs to set their own limits and boundaries, but they also have to be adaptable and have to be able to tailor the escorting experience to each and every client they see.

I have very very few limits, hardly any to be honest.  I don't complain if his cock is massive, I will still be able to take it, I don't complain if he wants to dress up in female underwear for the appointment, none of that bothers me but I know it bothers other escorts at times.  From chatting to clients it's quite obvious that other experiences have not lived up to what it said on the side of the packet, especially with the younger twinky type escorts.  Maybe they're just not worldly wise enough or have enough about them to be able to think outside of their little bubble.  Websites and online presence is usually a first point of contact these days and so if you have a website littered with don'ts, you're quickly going to be passed over for someone who is a bit more open minded.  I read recently about one male escort who is happy to be fucked but who needs lots of notice for it. I would never attend a single appointment without being prepared for it.  Its part of my routine and takes approximately 6 minutes.  No real preparation is required.  I even do this if he wants fucked, just in case half way through the appointment he decides he wants to tag some arse.  It happens all too often and so I'm ready for that eventuality from the moment he walks in the door.

I put my popularity down to the fact I'm just a regular highly sexed bloke who likes it a bit filthy at times.  Let's face it, most of the clients can get bog standard vanilla sex at home.  A lot of my married type guys come to me because they've always had urges to to have sex with other men, a lot of my bisexual clients come to me for similar reasons but also because they have a need to fuck ass or being fucked themselves and to ask their wives or girlfriends to do either is usually a big no no.  I have a few professional gay guys sprinkled in along the way who just like the idea of good sex when it suits them.

What brings clients back time and time again is the fact I rarely say no.  Sometimes a guy will walk in and want something I am not keen on but I don't ever turn down the request I just see how things go.  If he's super filthy and responsive then that thing is most likely to happen, if he just lies there and doesn't speak its unlikely it will happen because although it's my job to be the professional and try and make him feel good about himself, there is very little I can do with a corpse.

What works for one client, can work for many but doesn't work for them all.  Some guys arn't interested in seeing my puckered hole in a jockstrap, some guys arn't interested in touching my cock, some guys don't want their bum touched (most do mind) and some guys don't want nipples or kissing.  On a subsequent appointment I know exactly what makes them tick which is, following on from my last blog post, the reason why it can be a fabulous experience the first time but a mind blowing experience the second time.  By the second appointment I know exactly what they want and how quickly they want it or how paced out it should be.

Some appointments run like a story book, before he arrives you already know he wants a shower with you, he wants sucked off in the shower, he wants to rub his cock on your arse crack.  He wants to retire to the bed, be sucked, rimmed and then fuck your throat.  You know he will wet your arse crack then want you, first on your back then to fuck you like an animal on all fours, from behind.  You know exactly how this appointment will pan out and at which stage the next move is made.  This however doesn't work for all clients.

Escorts need to be in control of the appointment, we need to be able to work out which part of the appointment fits where without it looking like or being an act.  We also need to be completely flexible and assess each guy and each appointment in an instant. I always try to give more yes nods than no frowns and we, as escorts should maybe experiment ourselves and push our own boundaries.  Personally I was never into watersports, but over time I pushed my own boundaries and now I am quite happy to be pissed on if its what the client wants.  I still can't perform watersports mind unless I have been prewarned, drank lots of liquids and taken a couple of water tablets.  

There are times I have performed a filthy act with one client and dreaded the thought of it with another, again it's about the responsiveness of the client at the time.  If he's game and up for really dirty fun, the options are endless but if he just sits there all quiet and cold then its unlikely to happen.  Every client is different and that's something only a really professional escort can cope with.

Saturday 7 December 2013

Escort Friends With Benefits

What is It with escorts wanting personal relationships with clients. Isn't the idea of visiting an escort, a paid service with intimate sexual benefits.

I've recently learned of an escort in Gateshead who has a number of clients, on the go, who are no longer paying clients but instead they're now friends with a "special understanding", they take her for meals, one or two pop in with a bottle of wine but none of these guys seem to pay anymore, she just sees them in this manner because she likes their company and the obvious sex that comes with it.  I've no problem with that but wonder where this will eventually lead.  It's obvious from talking to this lady that she isn't charging them any fees anymore and that the original escorting service has led to a sort of friends with benefits dating service and it's even more obvious that Dave doesn't know anything about Brian and Brian doesn't know about Alan.  They all seem to think they're the only one in this special arrangement.  I am all in favour of a Sugar Daddies but these are far removed from that type of arrangement. Hey I'm open to Sugar Daddy liaisons but not in a "friends with benefits" set up.

I've been escorting, as a lot if you know, for well on more than a decade and in all of that time, I've never been on a date with a guy in a "friends with benefits" arrangement.  I love all (well nearly all) of my clients and they all have my number, most know where I live and they all know that they can contact me whenever they want (within reason) but I have a private life and they have one too. 

My overnight appointments and longer appointments are very much like a date, I make sure they flow as much like a date as the client wishes, with good intelligent conversation, horny fun, hot sex and a thoroughly fulfilling time and yes I will even arrive earlier on the evening or leave a little bit later than the normal 12 hours without any fuss or request of additional fees.  I don't mind arriving for an overnight at 5pm and leaving at 9am if I have seen the guy before and we get on really well and I don't mind travelling 4 hours either side to London or Aberdeen or any European city for an overnight even though it means I've been on the go 24 hours but I certainly wouldn't do it on a "friends with benefits" arrangement.

I started to wonder if she was lonely, if you're a popular escort like myself, you don't usually have time to be lonely. I work this career around another career and I've got cats and a home to take care of too plus a good network of very good friends that I see, chat to by phone and socialise with regularly,  I don't have time to fit in ex-clients for a friends with benefits arrangement.  

We all like compliments and the best compliment is when a guy wants to return to you or wants to book you for another big appointment to their hotel. I always show my appreciation ten fold to clients when they return. If they thought that the first appointment was wonderful, the second is going to blow them away. I am always filthier on subsequent appointments because I know their bodies, I know their interests and I know how far I can push their boundaries.  

I also wonder if some clients are turned on by having an escort girlfriend or boyfriend.  The thought that he will get deep throat the minute he walks into the apartment is a reality with his favourite escort however the reality is this ... if a client walked into my home and said "Suck my cock hard", I would suck it without hesitation and be very good at it but if a boyfriend walked in and asked the same question, I would probably say "Later..... after you've taken me for dinner, cleaned out the litter tray and let me watch Homeland on TV without winging".

I am not sure having "escort friends with benefits" is really the same as being an escort or booking an escort and I think it can lead to difficulties with both parties.  He could get jealous that he/she is seeing other men and being paid for it and the escort in this friendly relationship could have appointments booked in that they don't want to reveal to their "benefit friend" and start lying to the very same person who was initially a client.

I prefer to keep going along the same path and not clouding the boundaries. That way no one gets hurt.