Feedback And How Important It Is

How do you find an escort that suits your needs ?

Personal Recommendation -  Unlikely

Suck and See - Maybe

Online Presence - Extremely Likely

Feedback - Most Certainly

Feedback is great, it helps me and it helps you.  It makes me feel good about myself and it helps you to make your decision. 99% of guys don't leave feedback, many more though tell you to your face but the best feedback is when a guy books you a second, third, fourth time and its wonderful when you end up seeing someone for years.  That makes me feel wonderful and it makes you feel wonderful too because it becomes more personal because we know each other.

I am always in a loop of new guys, guys who are becoming regular, regular guys and truly loyal guys.  The truly loyal guys are the gentlemen I know don't see anyone else and I know they don't because the sex is wonderful and it's all about us, not about me and not about them, it's about us.  They enjoy their time with me as much as I do with them.

I get a nice turnover of guys who come and see me for the first time,  I would say that I have repeat appointments from 1 in every 3 guys a second time.  That's about the norm, whether you're a gay male or female escort.  Approximately 1 in every 3 are guys who won't book again, they are guys in, or visiting, Newcastle who may never return, guys who had gay feelings, acted on it and didn't feel the need to take it further, guys whose idea of the experience didn't live up to expectations and guys who felt I wasn't their type.

Being honest and realistic, I have guys who will visit me periodically.  This is maybe, once every 3 months, once every 6 months or once a year.  They're in a loop and I totally respect the fact that they may see other guys.  This doesn't bother me at all.  The fact they come back, when they can, makes me feel good.  These guys fill up my week,  every week,  quite nicely.  You rarely and I mean rarely get the guys who exclusively see you and see you regularly.  I'm lucky in this respect.  Obviously I can't be as exclusive to them as they would like me to be, but there's very little I can do about that.  Being a gay escort, in what is a somewhat specialist market, I am very lucky to be able to have such lovely gentlemen and I am lucky to have more exclusivity than many female escorts have.  They may have a few more clients than me but I do seem to have a lot more repeat appointments than they have from the same guys, time and time again.  

Feedback helps me enormously.  My rare, exclusive clients never leave feedback, my first time clients, love to leave feedback or text me with compliments.  I don't need feedback from the rare guys, but the feedback from the newbies brings in a whole wealth of new interest from guys that can sometimes turn into one of those rare gentleman who becomes exclusive to myself. Without that trust and recommendation I can't be the perfect escort that is expected of me.

Like with every escort, I am not everyone's cup of tea but the feedback helps guys make an informed decision and maybe make a decision that can make us all feel good.

Attention To Detail

One of the regular compliments paid to me is my attention to detail.  Apparently it's second to none.

Escort work is more than just sex.  Yes the shorter, fuckybuddy type appointments are just pure sex but the longer, more intimate appointments are more than just sex.  They're about giving something personal to the guy you are with and when faced with a longer appointment I research, research and research a bit more.

It's lovely to be wined and dined, have good sex and genuinely enjoy the time with a lovely man but if you are working as an escort you really need to take some time and prepare for an appointment.  If a gentleman asks to book me for an extended period of time, I always take the time to ask him, by email, text or phone, what sort of appointment he's looking for.  Some guys question why I am asking that, I am asking it because I want to make the appointment perfect.  I want you to think, "Wow" as I arrive.   I always dress accordingly to any appointment.  Hotel appointments, 4 star and above, will find me dressed in an expensive pair of designer jeans, an expensive tweed or cord jacket, a nice crisp shirt and real proper shoes, the sort of shoes you have handmade, not a pair of sale shoes from TK Maxx.  Attention to detail, when you walk into a hotel room, pays off ten fold.  If you were in a Premier Inn I'd dress almost the same but probably wouldn't wear the tweed jacket.  Nothing against guys in a Premier Inn but when I walk past reception I need to look like I am blending in, so I can get to the room without question.  The top end hotels are usually frequented by businessmen in suits, the mid range, by families, so I try and look like I belong there that evening as a resident.

If I visit a home address, the clicky shoes might be replaced with something that doesn't make such a racket when you walk up the drive and I might wear a nice fleece instead of a coat.  On those occasions, I arrive looking like the friend from work or the nephew popping in for a beer.  You have to dress accordingly.  If its a workplace, well .... I take those as they come.  I am not going to dress in a tweed jacket for a workshop, but I would wear a nice brown cord jacket for an office block.

The attention to detail doesn't stop there.  I will take toys, as requested.  If they're for his use, it will be a buttplug, a medium toy and a larger one.  If they're for him to use on me, the butt plug isn't necessary hahahaha.  If he likes it both ways, the double ender will come along.    I will always bag up all wipes, condoms and tissues and I will take it home and place it in my own bin, it's rare I leave any evidence behind.  I am always equipped with small bags, face cloths and baby wipes.  The amount of times I've been told by guys that escorts turn up with lube sachets, quite shocks me.  They're messy and the guys don't like them.  You always need to invest in a pump action bottle or four of lube.  Some guys want to use just a little bit of lube but sometimes half a bottle can go in one appointment.

If I see a guy a second time for an longer appointment, I will often take along a bottle of wine, it's an ice breaker and I don't do it all the time, I can't do it when travelling via airports but I can if I am coming by car or train.  I try to remember what sort of wine he prefers, from the previous appointment and take it along as a nice gesture.  It's my way of saying thank you and it lets him know that I appreciate his company.  

When I leave, I always say thank you for taking the time to find me online and invite me along. Depending on how well the appointment has gone and how intimate he's prepared to be, the parting gesture will be a handshake, kiss, hug or extended hug.  It's never a "pack up and see ya" departure.  I always take the time to say thank you. 

When I return for a second visit, I am told time and time again, how the attention to detail was one of the contributing factors to having me back, as well as the good sex, fun nature and intelligent conversation.  Sometimes the attention to detail is wasted on guys, they have a bad attitude and couldn't really care less that you went to all of this trouble so his time would be perfect, but on the nice gentlemen, it's very well appreciated and it goes a long way.

I don't get everything right and sometimes I forget to take stuff along, it's rare I do and I am mortified when I do but I usually get things right about 99.8% of the time.  When preparing for a longer advanced appointment, I start packing the bag 2 days before and I know that sounds silly and far fetched, but I don't want to leave the house in a hurry and have to spend a fortune on lube in Boots because I forgot to pick up my pump action bottle.  

At the moment I've a few guys I see quite regular and so I have tailored my look into what they want.  My beard is back for a start and I buy new underwear, specifically for one guy, for every liaison because he likes that attention to detail and I like the excitement of buying it, knowing he will love it and he will appreciate the fact I have gone the extra mile to make our time together fabulous.  I tell him about it in advance, just so he can anticipate what I will look like in it, spread across the bed.  This attention to detail is specific to him and he knows it is and that why he likes me so much.  I give him everything he wants, way above what he expects and I enjoy every minute of doing that.  The attention to detail makes me feel good about myself and makes me enjoy our time together even more.

Attention to detail is about preparation and research and if you can take an hour out of your day to make sure that 3 hour appointment goes well then you will be rewarded for your efforts.

Hello 2014

Hello 2014

The year 2013 was a very good year for me, I remained as popular as ever, met some lovely people and ended the year on a particular high, which happened after my final blog post of the year.  The year 2014 is looking good in many ways and I am walking into this year with a very happy outlook indeed.

I came into escort work, completely by accident.  It was never a chosen career.  If someone said to me in the mid 90s that I'd spend most of my adult life making other men "happy" I'd have thought they were absolutely bonkers.  It's an alternative career and as I was discussing with a very lovely gentleman last weekend, I could go back to a professional career but I choose not to because I actually like where I am at in life and I like what I am doing with my life.  

There's no escaping from the fact that I offer sex, I am ok with that and anyone who has met me, knows that I am not the typical guy who does this type of work and that's because I am the middle class gentleman who makes you feel good.  I don't answer to anyone, I don't discuss our time with anyone because the time we spend together is our time and it's private.  I might discuss aspects on the blog but generally what ever happens between you and I, is private and confidential.

Some appointments in 2013 were better than others, not every guy I see is great, sometimes I question what I am doing and its fair to say that at some point I might just hang up that jockstrap and move on with my life.  None of us know what is around the corner.  I am starting 2014 being very positive, I have a few personal things happening in the background and although I have an idea of where they are going, at this stage, I need to see where that adventure is taking me and what will become of it.  

When 2013 ended, I closed the blog down with an end of year recap of all the interesting things that happened in my escorting life.  My life is different every day of the week.  I get slow days, I get super busy days, I get sad days and I get happy days.  No two days are the same. In 2013 I walked into an appointment as Steve and walked out as the real me.  In other words, I walked into an appointment as Steve and walked out showing the real me, the real me that isn't Steve Gay Escort, if you understand what I mean. After years and years of doing this work, I have never let my guard down but something changed in 2013 and I ended up doing just that.  I let one person see who I really am and I don't regret that because I couldn't be Steve Gay Escort around him, it was the real me.   

My last liaison of 2013 between Christmas and New Year, after my last blog post had been published, was my most exciting yet.  I went through a whole year of seeing gentlemen, to end the year on my finest moment.  I didn't see anyone else after that because that had to be the finale to a very good year.  That was my decision to make and it was personal to me.

I wonder to myself, what 2014 will have in store for me.  At this moment in time, I don't know to be perfectly honest. I am hoping it will be a happy time for me and because I spend all of my energy making gentlemen happy, I am hoping that some of that happiness may end up being returned to me.  A lot of what I do is making sure that you are the happy party in the liaison, but I've found myself in the situation in 2013 where the gentleman I was with, made it his purpose to make me feel good about myself and I have to say, I liked that.  It was refreshing and it was nice and that's how I let my guard down.

One thing I do know in 2014 is that I will try and keep the blog as up to date as I can because my bizarre life does capture the interest of a lot of people, some of whom are just nosy, some of whom just want to read the smut, but some of whom are genuinely interested in a different life to their own, a bit of escapism where they can read about what makes a mid 30s middle class gay escort tick and how he copes with providing a very personal service in a sophisticated and eloquent way.  

Let's hope 2014 is a good year for everyone and I hope you carry on reading about the Exploits Of A Gay Newcastle Escort.

Steve x